We all have emotions (Love, hate, fear etc) and love is the strongest passion of them all. Love as they say conquers all. Therefore, when love dies, it may seem fatal and devastating. But there are ways to win back lost love. This piece will look at five strategies to pursue when you are trying to get your lover back.
First and foremost you need to be honest to yourself and to each other. If there were underlying problems in your relationship, it is essential that you address them immediately. For instance, if housework was a big issue, you need to address it before you can get back together. If you are messy and your ex was a neat freak, it can cause a considerable amount of stress and strain in the relationship. If one person felt they were doing all the housework, it can rock the boat. Finances are another area where there can be strain. To win back lost love, you have to address these areas before you get back together.
Next, you need to be a dependable and reliable person. If you have broken up already, you need to be dependable as an ex. You need to be there when he or she needs you, even though you no longer have a “responsibility” to. For instance, if she’s moving, lend a helping hand and your truck. If he/she needs someone to type his/her resume, do it.
Third, encourage your ex. One of the things people miss when they break up is the encouragement their partner gives them. So, to win back lost love, try to find out where they are discouraged and cheer them up. If they are having a performance review at work, send an email timed to get there right before the meeting. If they are singing a solo at church, showing up uninvited will not only be a breath of fresh air but also moral support.
Fourth, if he/she rings lend a listening ear. Most of the time after a break up, there is some level of communication. Often, this degenerates into fights. But, if you really listen to the things your ex is telling you, you may be able to figure out a way to get back into their life. Encourage them to share their problems with you. Don’t try to solve them. Just let them express their concerns. Be a sounding board.
Fifth, don’t sit on the sidelines or on the fence. Life is meant to be played on the playing field. If you sit on the sidelines, it’s likely that someone else will become the quarterback of their life. Don’t give up on the relationship unless you are ready to move on yourself. Things are not going to get better on their own. You have to go out and make things better.
If you want to win back lost love, employ these five steps as part of your action plan to win back their heart. You have to be proactive. The most important thing is to really care about your ex and to show him or her that you do care. You shouldn’t be worried if they date other people because they will come back to you if you are the right person for them. You should know that it is possible to win back lost love. Now go out there and do it!
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