If you are trying to find out how to get your ex girlfriend back, there is good news and bad news. If you are like me I prefer the bad news first, so here goes. The bad news is that there is no sure fire method for getting your ex-lover back. The fact of the matter is that many exes are gone for good and at some point you might end up having to deal with that and move on.
That was the bad news. The good news is that if you are willing to control a lot of your more natural instincts, you could end up finding that your ex has started to become interested in you once again.
The more civil, patient and understanding you are to her, the more likely it is that she will become interested in you once again. So return her things that were at your place when you next see her and always be prepared to laugh and be merry around her. They might not seem like big things to you right now, but they could be the tipping point in the future.
The second instinct that you need to control is the instinct to decide right away how things are going to happen. Many people do not really care one way or the other whether their ex has a relationship far away from them or close to them so long as they know what the relationship will be right away. This is wrong.
You should let nature takes its course and let your post-romance relationship develop naturally. With some exes, your best position is being the person they see every now and then at parties. With some, you can eventually become a best friend and a confidant. Take it slow and let them decide which way things will go. Both of these positions can lead to successful re-ignition of a relationship, so keep that in mind when trying to curb this instinct.
Finally, the third instinct that you need to curb if you ever want to successfully find out how to get your ex girlfriend back is the instinct to "force the issue." Many people will force the issue with their ex, forcing them to make a decision when they really are not ready for it. If you force the issue right away, obviously you’ll get a no from the ex.
After all, she just broke up with you! You don’t want to force or pressure the issue. Instead, you want to sit back and give her the space she needs, pushing slowly later on after they have gotten over the feelings that made them dump you in the first place.
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