Have you just broken up with your dream guy? Are you feeling totally lost without
him? Are you contemplating whether to
get back together ? Here’s some advice
about a boyfriend break up.
First of all, you must decide whether the relationship is
truly over. Until you are able to say
that he is part of your past and not your present and future, you will not be
able to move on.
There are a number of steps you can take to get him
back. You can stay part of his life in a
casual way hopping to become boyfriend and girlfriend again. But, if you are ready to move on, there are a several things
that can make the entire process much easier and bring about closure with less
complications. Closure is the process
where you recognize that the relationship is over and you start to heal.
Perhaps the first thing you should do is communicate your
hurt. There are several ways to do this:
• Talk to family
and friends who are truly empathetic and can help you work through your
feelings. A true friend will do this,
but many of your so called friends won’t be up to the challenge.
• Go into
short term therapy so you can work through your feelings with a dispassionate
third party
• Make a
list of how your emotions in a journal, in poetry, or in music. This is an inexpensive way to express
yourself and doesn’t require anyone else to participate.
Once you have come to some level of closure, get rid of
anything you have of your ex’s. These
things will only remind you of him and the boyfriend break up. Some things you’ll want to give back because
they have value. Other things you can
chuck it. And, if he’s given you gifts
that you want to keep, box them up and store them for the time being. That just the mature thing to do.
Next, figure out how you are going to spend your time now that
you are not in a relationship. You may
feel that time hangs heavy on your hands.
Or, you may find that you are liberated by not having to do everything
your ex wanted you to do. Get involved in things that make you happy. Go to the gym so that you look and feel
good. Spend some time getting pampered
at the spa. Take a Spanish class at the
community center. Or, start to volunteer
with Hospitals, Women Centers or in your Community.
By occupying yourself with things that please you, you will
become a happier person. You will find
that you miss your ex a lot less. One of the ways you will know that you are over your ex is
that you will start to develop feelings for a new guy. Maybe these will be reciprocated. Eventually, you will find a new man and form
a new relationship. That will be when
you know you have truly really moved on.
The boyfriend break up won’t be so serious any more.
If you ever had to deal with a breakup let us know and the ways deal with it.
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